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Aches, pains and joy for 40-year-old man savoring his second chance to play college volleyball

Damon LaSalle keeps the athletic trainers busy at New Jersey City University.
As he gets out of bed, his hamstrings, knees and back give him daily reminders that playing college volleyball can take a toll on the body. He has standing appointments with a chiropractor and acupuncturist in addition to the frequent visits to the training room.
“I have like a professional team taping me and sewing me together,” he said, laughing.
Those aches and pains are magnified for LaSalle.
He is, after all, 40 years old.
LaSalle plays middle blocker for the Knights, and most of his teammates weren’t born 20 years ago when he was one of the biggest stars in Division III. His first go in college ended because he was ruled academically ineligible before what would have been his senior season.
With his wife’s encouragement, the stay-at-home dad went back to school so he could honor his late mother’s wish that he earn a degree and to set an example for his three children. He also wanted to put a proper bow on his volleyball career.
The academic part has been no problem. LaSalle is a fire science major who is on the dean’s list with a 3.8 grade-point average on a 4.0 scale, and he is on track to graduate this spring.
The volleyball part has been an adventure. He has been limited to 10 of the Knights’ first 18 matches because of his assortment of injuries. Not all were volleyball-related. He missed two matches with a classic dad injury — he tweaked his hamstring shoveling snow and the pain migrated to his back.
40 going on 20
LaSalle doesn’t jump as high or move as quickly as he once did. The way he describes it, he once could dunk a basketball and now can grab the rim with both hands. The guy can still play a little volleyball, though.
Knights coach Carlo Edra, who played with LaSalle at NJCU from 2004-06, said he’s shown two opposing coaches a photo array of the team and asked them to identify the 40-year-old. Both pointed to someone other than LaSalle.
LaSalle can keep up with his younger teammates, but he’s not the intimidating middle he once was. In 2006, he was national player of the week once and division player of the year in the old North East Collegiate Volleyball Association, which was Division III’s top league. He is NJCU’s career leader in block assists, and in wrapping his fourth season he is on the cusp of becoming the program’s all-time leader in total blocks.
“His resume was right on hall of fame level at this college,” said Ira Thor, the school’s former sports information director.
A sudden ending
LaSalle’s first stint at NJCU ended suddenly. He was in preseason training during the fall of 2006 when an assistant athletic director pulled him out of practice and told him he was ineligible. His grade-point average was 1.4, the equivalent of a D-plus.
“I was more of an athlete-student instead of a student-athlete,” he said. “That happens to a lot of kids, and I let it get too far. I got to a point where when the athlete part wasn’t available to me, it wasn’t as interesting to be a student.”
So he quit school and, needing a job, asked Edra for help. Edra had graduated the year before and worked at a kitchen cabinet company. Edra recommended LaSalle, and he spent six or seven years there and became warehouse manager. LaSalle ended up marrying the woman who interviewed him for the job, and when Christina and he began a family, he was able to stay home.
The LaSalles live about a 35-minute drive from NJCU’s Jersey City campus and have daughters ages 4 and 6 and a son who’s 8.
When he asked Christina if she would be OK with him going to school and playing volleyball again, she told him it would make her proud if he did.
“That gave me goosebumps,” he said. “It made me feel like I could really do this.”
His biggest regret
LaSalle said his biggest regret was dropping out of school, and his desire to go back grew stronger several years ago when he came across his wife’s diploma from Rutgers.
“I looked at it and I was, ‘I want one of these,’” he said. “Carlo and I had a conversation, What if my kids ask me why I don’t have one, what would my answer be to them about why I didn’t finish?”
LaSalle, Edra and their former teammates have remained close over the years, and during their get-togethers or in their group texts somebody occasionally would suggest LaSalle finish what he started academically and athletically.
In Division III, an athlete gets 10 semesters as a full-time student to play four seasons. There is no running eligibility clock as in Division I, so an athlete could leave school and return in, say, 20 years and pick up where he left off.
In LaSalle’s case, he had played three seasons over seven semesters. To get his grades up and preserve his one remaining season of eligibility, LaSalle could only enroll as a part-time student and take a couple classes per semester.
The slog to eligibility ended last summer. He became a full-time student in the fall and joined the team.
‘Coming off the scrap heap’
The only volleyball LaSalle had played since 2006 was with Edra in a summer sand volleyball league at a bar.
“I’m not coming off the club court or anything,” LaSalle said. “I was coming off the scrap heap, as they say, off the couch.”
Actually, LaSalle had stayed fit over the years and that picked up once he decided to pursue college volleyball again. LaSalle knew he would have to earn his playing time and that Edra wouldn’t give him special treatment because of their two-decade friendship.
“So if one of your kids is throwing a temper tantrum and you’re late to practice, I’ve got to make you run, dude,” Edra said he told LaSalle.
Sure enough, LaSalle stopped for coffee on his way to practice one day, had trouble finding a parking spot on campus and showed up late. He had to run laps, do 100 squat lifts, 30 pushups, a three-minute wall sit (a grueling quadriceps exercise) and a three-minute plank.
“There’s been plenty of days when I get home from these practices and I’ll tell my wife, ‘Should I be doing this? Am I going to be OK tomorrow?’” LaSalle said. “Every day I wake up and here I am.”
Embraced by teammates
His teammates have embraced him, first calling him “Unc,” as in uncle. The nickname morphed to “Big 40” and stuck. Alex Casais, the team captain, said he treated LaSalle like any other teammate when practice started.
“I was not giving him the props,” he said. “I couldn’t. I had to make sure to he was earning it on the court. He hit one ball and I knew it was over. I knew we were good.”
LaSalle said his approach was to blend in with his new teammates. That meant being quiet and doing what everybody else was doing. He said he never expected his teammates to know what he had accomplished 20 years ago, calling it immaterial.
“He came in with a sense of dignity,” Casais said. “He stepped on the court, and his head was down and he was going to work. I felt like a lot of the younger guys looked up to him, and that’s where ‘Big 40’ came from. He was someone working as hard as everyone else, if not harder.”
Savoring every moment
LaSalle said the game has become faster, players jump higher, systems are more sophisticated and the disparity between the top and bottom teams is smaller.
But if anyone thought LaSalle would embarrass himself, he proved them wrong.
“It was kind of a surprise to everybody that once we all got in the gym in the fall season that he started to compete for the starting spot,” Edra said. “The fact he’s keeping up with guys that are 21 years old and 20, 18 — it’s kind of crazy.”
For LaSalle, it’s crazy fun. He said he savors every moment because he realizes he got an almost unimaginable second chance. Recalling 2006, he said, “I played my last game, and I didn’t know it was my last game.”
And now?
“Every practice we finish, it’s one less practice that I have before it’s over,” he said. “So I don’t take that for granted. I don’t take any day for granted at all.”
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Faith-based camps like those hit by Texas floods are rite of passage for many

Texas’ catastrophic flooding hit faith-based summer camps especially hard, and the heartbreak is sweeping across the country where similar camps mark a rite of passage and a crucial faith experience for millions of children and teens.
“Camp is such a unique experience that you just instantly empathize,” said Rachael Botting of the tragedy that struck Camp Mystic, the century-old all-girls Christian summer camp where at least 27 people were killed. A search was underway for more than 160 missing people in the area filled with youth camps as the overall death toll passed 100 on Tuesday.
Botting, a former Christian camp counselor, is a Wheaton College expert on the role camp plays in young people’s faith formation. “I do plan to send my boys to Christian summer camps. It is a nonnegotiable for us,” added the mother of three children under 4.
Generations of parents and children have felt the same about the approximately 3,000 faith-based summer camps across the country.
That is because for many campers, and young camp counselors, they are crucial independence milestones — the first time away from family or with a job away from home, said Robert Lubeznik-Warner, a University of Utah youth development researcher.
Experts say camps offer the opportunity to try skills and social situations for the first time while developing a stronger sense of self — and to do so in the safety of communities sharing the same values.
Camp rules: Do good and keep the faith
After the floodwaters rampaged through Camp Mystic, authorities and families have been combing through the wreckage strewed between the cabins and the riverbank.
On Sunday, a man there carried a wood sign similar to those seen hanging outside the door of several buildings. It read: “Do Good. Do No Harm. Keep Falling In Love With Jesus.”
For generations, these Texas campers have been challenged to master quintessential summer activities from crafts to swimming while also growing in spiritual practices. Campers and counselors shared devotionals after breakfast, before bed and on Sunday mornings along the banks of the Guadalupe River, according to Camp Mystic’s brochure and website. They sang songs, listened to Scripture and attended Bible studies, too.
How big of a role faith has in the camp experience varies, Botting said. There are Christian camps where even canoeing outings are discussed as metaphors for spiritual journeys, others that aim to insert more religious activities like reading the Bible into children’s routines, and some that simply seek to give people a chance to encounter Jesus.
The religious emphasis also varies at Jewish camps, which span traditions from Orthodox to Reform. Activities range from daily Torah readings to yoga, said Jamie Simon, who leads the Foundation for Jewish Camp. The group supports 300 camps across North America, with about 200,000 young people involved this summer alone.
What they all have in common is a focus on building self-esteem as well as positive Jewish communities and identities — all particularly important as many struggle with antisemitism as well as the loneliness and mental health barriers common across all youth, Simon said.
At Seneca Hills Bible Camp and Retreat Center in Pennsylvania, there is archery, basketball and volleyball for summer campers, but also daily chapel, listening to missionaries and taking part in Bible study or hearing a Bible story depending on their age, which ranges from 5 to 18-year-olds.
“There’s a whole host of activities, but really the focus for camp is building relationships with one another and encouraging the kids’ relationships with God,” said camp executive director Lindon Fowler.
For many, participating in the same summer camp is also a generational tradition. Children are sent to the same place as their parents and grandparents to be around people who share the same value system in ways they can’t often experience in their local communities.
A taste of faith, wilderness and independence for more than two centuries
Because of their emphasis on independence and spending time away from family, summer camps in general have been especially popular in North America, Lubeznik-Warner said.
In the United States, faith-based summer camps date back to two parallel movements in the 19th century — the revivalist religious gatherings in tents and the “fresh-air movement” after the industrial revolution — and boomed after World War II, Botting said.
Particularly since the COVID-19 pandemic lockdowns, as questions about children’s dependence on technology have surged, interest has grown in summer camps as “places where kids can really unplug, where kids can be kids,” Botting said.
Many parents like that camp can disconnect their children from their devices.
“We’re interested in campers hearing similar messages that they’re going to get at home or in their church or their faith communities,” Fowler said. He added: “I think they can hear … the meaning of things more clearly while they’re at camp” and away from distractions.
For Rob Ribbe, who teaches outdoors leadership at Wheaton College’s divinity school, all the elements of camp have biblical resonance.
“God uses times away, in community, often in creation … as a way to shape and form us, and help us to know him,” Ribbe said.
Summer camp challenges: Safety protocols and determination
There are faith-related challenges, too. As children explore their identities and establish bonds outside their families, many programs have been wrestling with how to strike a balance between holding on to their denominations’ teachings while remaining welcoming, especially on issues of gender and sexuality, Botting said.
Rising costs are also a pressing issue. Historically, camps have been particularly popular among middle to upper-income families who can afford fees in the thousands of dollars for residential camps.
And then there is safety — whether in terms of potential abuse, with many church denominations marred by recent scandals, or the inherent risks of the outdoors. In Texas’ case, controversy is mounting over preparedness and official alerts for the natural disaster.
Every summer, hundreds of thousands of parents trust Brad Barnett and his team to keep their children safe — physically and spiritually — at the dozens of summer camps run by Lifeway Christian Resources.
Barnett, director of camp ministry, said already his staff has shared personal connections to Camp Mystic: One staff member’s daughter was an alum; another’s went to the same day camp with a girl who died in the flood; and a former staff member taught at the high school of a counselor who died.
But the tragedy is also informing their work as they provide yet another week of Christian summer camp experiences for children across the country.
“That’s the punch in the gut for us,” he said. “We know that there’s an implicit promise that we’re going to keep your kid safe, and so to not be able to deliver on that and the loss of life, it’s just so tragic and felt by so many.”
Experts say camp staff are likely to double down on best practices to respond to emergencies and keep their campers safe in the aftermath of the Texas floods.
“It’s, truly, truly heartbreaking for the whole community of Christian camping,” said Gregg Hunter, president of Christian Camp and Conference Association, which serves about 850 member camps catering to about 7 million campers a year.
But the positive and often lifelong impacts on children’s confidence and faith identity are so powerful that many leaders expressed hope the tragedy wouldn’t discourage children from trying it.
“It’s where my life took a dramatic turn from being a young, obnoxious, rebellious teenager,” Hunter said. “My camp experience introduced me to so many things, including to my faith, an opportunity, an option to enter into a relationship with God.”
Simon, a former camper and camp leader, said she is happy her son is currently at camp — even though there is a river by it.
“I wouldn’t want him to be anywhere else,” she said.
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Associated Press writers Jim Vertuno and Holly Meyer contributed.
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Armani couture channels black as maestro misses Paris bow for 1st time, days from 91st birthday

PARIS (AP) — Armani Privé opened Tuesday under an unmistakable shadow. For the first time in the 20-year history of his couture house, Giorgio Armani was not present in Paris to take his bow.
Days from his 91st birthday and following doctors’ advice after a recent hospital stay, Armani reportedly oversaw the Paris couture week show remotely from home, a moment of absence that lands heavily for a designer who has shaped every one of his brand’s collections since its founding.
The show’s theme, “Seductive Black,” played out with literal and symbolic force on the runway: black in myriad forms, from liquid velvet and lacquered silk to pavé crystals and flashes of gold. Even the models’ makeup followed suit, rendered in shades of gray.
For some in the front row, the relentless palette felt pointed. Guests quietly wondered if the choice of black was a coded message from the maestro himself.
Armani missed Milan, too
This is not the first major show Armani has missed this season. Just weeks ago, he was forced to sit out Milan Fashion Week for the first time in the label’s history, following a brief hospitalization.
According to the brand, the absence was a precaution to save energy for his Paris couture appearance.
For decades, Armani — often referred to as “Re Giorgio,” or King George, in Italy — has been both the creative and business force behind one of fashion’s last great independent empires.
The Tuesday collection balanced tension and control. After an uncertain start, including velvet jodhpurs and stark crystalline seams, Armani’s familiar codes quickly emerged: tuxedo jackets transformed into evening gowns with plunging lapels and floating bow ties, tailored blazers worn on bare skin and military-inspired equestrian jackets paired with slim velvet pants.
Bursts of embroidery and colored feathers provided a balance from the monochrome.
A living fashion ma
estro
Armani’s recent absences have sent ripples through the industry. In a landscape dominated by conglomerates like LVMH and Kering, Armani remains the sole shareholder of his company, personally overseeing every collection for nearly 50 years. In 2024, Armani Group reported revenues of $2.5 billion, while Giorgio Armani’s personal fortune is estimated at $11–13 billion — even as the global luxury market faces headwinds.
Armani is widely credited with redefining men’s and women’s tailoring, pioneering gender-fluidity in fashion, and inventing celebrity red-carpet dressing, from Julia Roberts to Cate Blanchett. Yet the designer himself has acknowledged that age is now a reality to deal with and that pulling back could be a necessity.
Whether the monochrome collection was a deliberate metaphor or simply a showcase of discipline, “Seductive Black” felt personal — both a mood and a message, perhaps an understated nod to a master whose presence, even in absence, remains absolute. As the show closed, the final bow belonged to the models alone. But Armani’s vision — uncompromising and unmistakably his — filled the room.
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PARIS (AP) — Stéphane Rolland went back to what he does best on Tuesday: unadulterated couture. This season at Paris Couture Week, Rolland stripped away gimmicks and let the clothes do the talking, unveiling a dazzling palette of ivory, black, and red — with giant spangles shimmering like stardust or cosmic fish scales.
A live string orchestra set the mood as Rolland’s signature silhouettes reshaped the female form: mermaid gowns hugged the body, giant tulle trains trailed behind, and severe white dresses with razor-sharp shoulders brought a surreal, intergalactic edge. Space-age references ran throughout, from pointy shoulders to jewels worn as talismans — adorned on gowns or set on the forehead like interplanetary insignia.
It marked a confident return to classic Rolland after recent seasons experimenting with format and mood. Last year, Rolland broke with tradition, staging a collaborative, student-led show inspired by the serenity of the desert. But on Tuesday, the focus was undiluted couture, delivered with maximum impact.
A celebrity favorite — counting Kim Kardashian and Cardi B among his fans — Rolland is one of Paris fashion’s last couture independents. His trademark mix of sculptural tailoring, high drama, and Parisian mystique was on full display, proving that sometimes, the boldest move is simply perfecting your own signature.
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